I appreciate that it is not always easy to be open and frank about these things. Even in the UK, it is not perfect here. Sometimes things need to get worse before they can get better and many good things have been happening recently. However, I do need to be clear because it will help you understand me.
Within the transgender group there is an identity called Non-Binary and that is what I am. Non-Binary means someone who is not a man or a woman. All Non-Binary people are different. As for me, I like to think of it as colour percentages. I am 40% blue, 20% pink, 40% yellow. Yellow means no-gender, like a tree or the sun. Please notice that while I am biologically female, I am only 20% pink gender. This means that I feel significant dysphoria about my body and how I am seen and treated by others. If I could, I would be reborn with a man's body. But this is who I am and part of the journey of being transgender is learning to accept and grieve what you can't change about your life. Some transgender people do get surgery and others don't. It's a personal decision. I haven't had surgery and I don't have any plans to get surgery. But please accept that there is a small chance I may one day change my mind.
I don't like to be treated like a woman. My personality, instincts, and behaviour are very different to most women's personalities, instincts, and behaviours. Once you spend time with me in person, this will be clear. In terms of relationships, I am friends with straight men, straight women, and queer people. Romantically, I like other transgender people. Specifically, I like people who are mostly or all pink gender (born male). In this kind of relationship, I don't get treated like a woman--I get treated like me (someone who is mostly masculine, but not completely a man). I like to treat my partner as who they are (someone who is mostly or all feminine), not as a man. This means I would instinctively do the asking out, planning dates, buying things, and anything else a man would normally do in a straight relationship. If it was the other way around, it would be a bit awkward and uncomfortable.
In English, we have gendered pronouns: he, she, and they. They/them is the singular 3rd person pronoun for Non-Binary people. Eg "I gave it to them."
I am telling you these things so that you can understand me better. If it's too difficult to understand for now, just imagine that I am a man with a man's body. In time, you may get to know me for who I am and understand the nuances of what I am like. I won't be offended if you make mistakes, but I will be hurt if you deliberately disregard what I have told you about myself. Every one of us is a human being. We all deserve to live our lives with basic respect, dignity, and acceptance from others.